Little Iqbal's Sex........
Well here's a joke.....
Iqbal was a young kid of six(6) years of age, One day he came to his Mom 'n' said somthin' in her ear, She started yellin' at her husband 'n' hitted him in the face 'n' when he wanted to know about her anger, she called her son Iqbal.
Mom: Iqbal! come here 'n' tell your dad what did you see this mornin'.
Iqbal: Mom! I was playin' with Omer when dad came there with aunt Bina.
Mom: Then what happened Iqbal?
Iqbal: Aunt Bina took her pants off.
Mom: What did happen next? Iqbal!
Iqbal: Then aunt Bina sat on the sofa 'n' dad sat down on the floor on his knees right infront of aunt Bina's thighs 'n' then he kissed on her .......
Mom: Don't be scared Iqbal, Just say it in front of your dad.
Iqbal: Then dad 'n' aunt Bina did all those things that you 'n' uncle Nasir do when dad is not home.
Well, It was a joke but Truth is that every body is after sex. People cheat 'n' betray thier Love ones 'n' go for sex. It's a trgic thing that in Pakistani families kids 're not told well enough about sex, As a result Pakistanies 're goin' Sexually Active before Marriage (in Pakistan 'n' out of Pakistan). Some times I think that sex is so common now that it's not a Sin any more.
At other side, My closest friend Ali lives in Washington. His parents were forcin' him to get marry a Pakistani girl but he was not OK with this. He shared only with me "Yaar! I can't marry a Pakistani girl, Yaar! Paki girls know nothin' about sex, They can't satisfy my needs". I know a girl who married A white guy in London 'n' she had same Problems "Paki guys don't know how to make happy (in bed)". I'm not syain' that marryin' to Non Pakistanies is bad, I'm sayin' it's bad that they had no other option.
Now, There 're 2 different Problems. In some way, People 're goin' Sexually Active (without Marriage) which is not acceptable at all coz of our Faith. Other way people 're havin' problems coz they 're not aware, coz they 're not commin' out of their shell.
I'M NOT A MOLANA, I'm a Very very Modern Believer. But I still 've some limits that I always care about. About the first Problem. Holy Prophet says "OO THE BELIEVERS! STAY AWAY FROM WHAT IS FORBIDEN 'N' SEX IS FORBIDEN, IF IT'S OUT OF MARRIAGE"
About other Problem Holy Prophet says "OO THE MALE BELIEVERS! GIVE BEST PLEASURES TO YOUR WIVES, SO THEY CAN ENJOY YOUR LOVE, YOUR BODY 'N' YOUR TOUCH IN EACH 'N' EVERY WAY. OO THE FEMALE BELIEVERS! GIVE BEST PLEASURES TO YOUR HUSBANDS, SO THEY CAN ENJOY YOUR LOVE,
YOUR BODY 'N' YOUR TOUCH IN EACH 'N' EVERY WAY."
Now, this is clear then why don't Pakiistani families come out of their Shell? Why don't they teach their kids the Basic Information in Religious way? I don't 've it's answer. Well I brought this subject up here in Blog coz my dad asked me that day "PUTER JI! WHEN 'LL YOU GET MARRY?" I told him that I'll go for marriage when I 'll find some one who 'll think like me about God, about sex 'n' about other important stuff..
God bless all.....
posted by Mr. Khurram @ Saturday, December 10, 2005
18 comments
18 Comments:
wow, You are right i agree with you. People should choose nice things. specialy men dont care about their wives' pleasure things and needs so they should. Women do every thing to make them happy so they should also. NADIA.
BOXIN-CHAMP YOU ARE KAFIR
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Mr or Miss Anonymous! You 're not Welcome here.
All the Sunni, Shiat 'n' all other Muslim brothers 'n' sisters 're welcome on my Blog. All Non Muslim brother 'n' sisters 're also Welcome here.
But people with WAHABI BELIEFS (like Anonymous)'re not welcome here. I don't know who the hell you 're, But I know you 're some Wahabi believer. People like you 're Presentin' a Fake image of Islam in the world. Religion is not your Property. Religion is from God 'n' it's for every one. It's my Religion, it's all these Bloggers' Religion 'n' it's every one's.
You 've no right to say "Kafir" or any other bad word to me or to any one else. Just coz other people think different from you, so we all 're Kafir? God loves only you?
Anonymous please, Just don't post any comment again on my Blog.
in one way..i totally agree with u cuz it's really true that paki families never explain anything about the subject sex. the best source of info kids have are friends..which is not exactly all that accurate..most paki kids don't know wat sex is until the wedding day or something and they're so scared...
paki parents need to get out of their shells
Hey... I am reading ur blog for the first time...and maybe my comment might be to critical...but i hope you do respond...
1) I am still trying to figure out..the point you are trying to make in ur post...is it that our desi parents should be more open about sex...in ways such as teaching us how to please the other???? cuz u make alot of points on ur post, and they are so random...that i dunno what ur basically trying to say...it would help if u get to the point..
2) you are quoting a hadith, I would really like to know where you got it from...it would help if u provide citations...so that we know this is from a valid source...
3) Your friends that you have mentioned in ur post...seems as if they have huge misconception about the "importance of marriage"...if i knew them personally...I would have told them...that marriage isn't all abt having great sex...if that was the case...then every guy wud be married to whore...and as time have proven...whores don't usually make good wives...
Anyways...will see you around
Unseen and Unknown is always attractive. If you want someone to explore something, then hide it. If you want someone to loose interest in something, open it up.
Sex is not an exception.
Suleman, I am yet to read your newmpost. I am very busy with coursework. Will reply in due course.
Good post. That first few para gave me the giggles!
bhad999@hotmail.com
Nadia _ Thankyou for understandin' my Point.
Anonymous _ I just can Pray for extremists like you.
Iman _ You 're right, Only God knows the Truth. But he gave us a MIND to explore the Truth. Thankyou for takin' my side against that stupid Anonymous.
Punjabi Cinderella _ Thankyou for such nice words. We need to break that shell.
No One _ Thankyou for takin' time to visit here. Here 're the answers.
1. I don't say that people should teach their kids to pleasure their partners. My point is that, thre should be some education about it that can answer the questions in kids' minds. That education should must be in Religious way.
2. I don't think you 've doubts about 1st Hadith, I'm sure you 're askin' about 2nd Hadith.
You can find it in 2 Sunni Books "Sunen Ibne Maja". In "Mashkawt" the Chapter 3 is about Familiy Duties. You can get it.
You can also find it in Shiat book "Tehdibul Ehkam" in 8th chapter.
3. You 're right that Marriage is not only about good Sex, But Sex has a big part in Marriage. If husband 'n' wife 're not satisfied sexually then it can tense their relation. But if they 're enojyin' their Healthy Sexual life, it can help them be more strong in relationship. Alot othr things 're also important though. So if my friend wanted good sex in Marriage then they 're right. It's alot better then premaritial sex.
Anyway, people 've different ideas about the life 'n' stuff, so if you don't agree with me or I don't agree with you. It shouldn't be problem.
Fahd Mirza _ I don't say it should be open, I say it should be alittle open, Some knowledge in Religious way.
Sumaiya _ Thankyou for sharin' with me. I Like your blog alot.
GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU.....
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The meaning kafir is referred to as a non-muslim. A muslim is person who believes in the one god Allah and the last prophet (peace be upon him) There is none worthy of worship besides Allah and mohammed (saw) is the last messenger. The latter is the basic fundamental priciple of Islam and every muslim should execpt the aforesaid kalima. A person who denies certain obligations in Islam such as prayer and quran cannot be regarded as a muslim. One who denies the disregards the essential point of our religion which is commonly known to all may be deemed a non-muslim.
I pray to Allah to forgive me if I have said anything incorrect and pray to him for guidance and lead me to the right path.
I raised this issue because a anoymous person called suleman a kafir. The name suleman is very holy and it was one of the prophets name.
[My replies are in bracket]
1. I don't say that people should teach their kids to pleasure their partners. My point is that, thre should be some education about it that can answer the questions in kids' minds. That education should must be in Religious way.
[My question to you was...exactly how a desi parent could talk about sex with their children in a really "educational way"...the thing is...our culture doesn't approve of pre-marital relations/sex...it's a taboo...and most parents stay away from that topic...however, as you say, there shud be some education about it....like what kind?? have you had this conversation with your dad?? if so....please let us all know how it went :) ]
2. I don't think you 've doubts about 1st Hadith, I'm sure you 're askin' about 2nd Hadith.
You can find it in 2 Sunni Books "Sunen Ibne Maja". In "Mashkawt" the Chapter 3 is about Familiy Duties. You can get it.
You can also find it in Shiat book "Tehdibul Ehkam" in 8th chapter.
[ I don't have access to these books here, so I don't know if they are valid sources...I mostly believe in books that have been notarized by the scholars of saudi government/islamic council ]
3. You 're right that Marriage is not only about good Sex, But Sex has a big part in Marriage. If husband 'n' wife 're not satisfied sexually then it can tense their relation. But if they 're enojyin' their Healthy Sexual life, it can help them be more strong in relationship. Alot othr things 're also important though. So if my friend wanted good sex in Marriage then they 're right. It's alot better then premaritial sex.
[ Well it's not just your friend...but every other guy wants some good sex...however, the fact that your friend has solely based his decision of marriage on "pakistani girls not able to satisfy him" then I think he's extremely immature,irrational, and a thoughtless individual....it's not just sex that makes a relationship stronger...if only guys knew that!! ]
Anyway, people 've different ideas about the life 'n' stuff, so if you don't agree with me or I don't agree with you. It shouldn't be problem.
[ Well I am glad that you have mentioned here that your accepting of other peoples opinions...so please next time..if someone has a different view...don't label them as "weird" or "jealous type of guy"....cuz it's not worth it :)]
God bless you too ;)
Where did Khurram label or say such statement about jelous and weird type guy, No one? I didnt see any comments made from him as such.
No One _ Looks like you 're totally Pissed off. Girl! you need to grow up.
1. I never say parents should talk to their kids about Premeritial sex. it's not allowed in Islam. My point is that every kid (from age 9 to 17) got many questions in their mind. I say those questions must be answered.
2. The 2 Sunni books 'n' one Shiat book I 've told you. First 2 books 're part of Saudi Law.
3. If you think my friends did such wrong act then "think". Everybody has own views.
No One, If you can't stand any opposition Then you sure 're a Taliban Branded Muslim.
SUMAIYA ZABWALA _ THANKYOU AGAIN FOR VISITIN' HERE. YOUR COMMENTS 'RE MUCH MORE APPRICIATED.
GOD BLESS YOU ALL.....
No One _ Looks like you 're totally Pissed off. Girl! you need to grow up.
1. I never say parents should talk to their kids about Premeritial sex. it's not allowed in Islam. My point is that every kid (from age 9 to 17) got many questions in their mind. I say those questions must be answered.
2. The 2 Sunni books 'n' one Shiat book I 've told you. First 2 books 're part of Saudi Law.
3. If you think my frien
It's really not all that. It's about the attitude of the people who've been brought up and how they've been brought up that matters. My parents could tell me all about the birds and the bees, but in the end, it'll be upto me to actually chose which path is the right one. And it's really not about educating, trust me. I know a lot of people who literally, take up partners like clothes; wear it for a day, then throw it away. It's what's inside that counts as much as the outside. Marriage is not, and should not be, the end all and be all of things. And as someone said up here, marriage is not just about having sex, it's something much more.
There is no shyness with regards to any matters of Islam. We should take a lesson from the wife of the Prophet (saw), Aisha (ra). She had male companions coming to her to learn from her vast knowlegde and she was never shy with them. Indeed, it was Aisha herself who narrated that the Prophet (saw) used to fondle her breasts and indulge in foreplay with her during her menses. If she had not narrated this, then how would we know our limits with regards to marital relations?
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