Trust.....
A simple word "Trust". What does it mean? it carries very complex meanings in it. We all understand this word but we all take this word in many different ways.
How does it feel when you Trust somebody BUT they stab you? There is a Trust between friends, between Business-Partners, between family members, between team members, between Lovers in a Love Realtionship 'n' there is Trust between people in many other ways.
In my life 'n' in everybody's life it happens in one of the above way, that you Trust somebody 'n' they stab you. Being a Believer I forgive those people who hurt me coz this is what I'm told, this is what I'm taught 'n' this is what God wants me to do.
I 've a question for all of you 'n' for answer you 've 4 options.
When somebody plays with your Trust (in Love, work, family, friends, business or in any other way) what you 're gonna do to them?
A. Forgive them, if "yes" then how you 're gonna forgive them?
B. Punish them, if "yes" then how you 're gonna punish them?
C. Give them another chance 'n' Trust them again, if "yes" then how?
D. You 're gonna do somethin' else, what?
God bless all.....
posted by Mr. Khurram @ Friday, June 09, 2006
15 comments
15 Comments:
I think it all depends on what the situation is before someone can decide what they will do.
Each one of these could apply to different situations.
EXSENO _ You 're right that it depends on situation BUT most of the time situation is in our own hands and situations comes as result of our own actions. So we 're responsible for what happens(most of the time).
MISS ISRAEL _ You do the right thing coz forgivin' others is a Great Virtue.
KATE _ My sister was gonna visit me in May but we couldn't fix the timings. I 'll call her tonight, she just wanna lave London 'n' wanna come to meet the family as soon as possible.
QUEEN _ You 're such a Dear friend. But you must always remember that the things I told you 're not from me, they 're from God. He just guides all of us but it's our choice to follow Him or not. Again you 'll say that I speak Poetry so I'm gonna stop.
God bless all of you.....
I forgive them, but I stay wary. I have had this happen with my Mom and my sister, and fogave them every time. Then I finally got to a point where I said, "enough". That is where I am now, somewhere between enough and DONE.
It's good to forgive, but to be continually stepped on and mistreated is not ok.
hiya...
nice post...
and pal that is an amazingly ugly display pic .....do yourself some good and please change it...lol
take care
I agree with that Champ. The situation is in ones own hands and they should handle it. What I mean is the solution for me could be any one of those answers depending on many things such as is the person a friend or a relative, are the someone that I know well or do not know well. You see what I mean. Sometimes it is better to do something about a problem and sometimes it is better to say it's not worth the trouble.
When I say not worth the trouble I don't mean that they should run away from the problem, that just shows a lack of maturity. I think they should at least mentally consider the problem to see if it is worth addressing or not.
Sorry I meant to add, that I always forgive, but I don't always forget.
I will punish them first...knowing me...how? I will make them FEEL extremely guilty about hurting me...then eventually....I will soften...and forgive them...but I will never trust them again....never...that's how it goes...with me :) ...see ya champ.
BRIGHTON _ I know all about your Mom 'n' sister, I know they 've a bad way to treat family members. I know you forgive others 'n' that is a Great thing of your Great heart.
MEHWISH _ My Dear! thankyou for the comments, I took this pic in Koh Kaaf, LOL! You should also visit there 'n' get some recent pics of you. LOL!
EXSENO _ I understand your point. I also do the same 'n' I don't address the minor issues. It's a unique thing in you that you forgive but don't forget.
OPINIONATED _ My Dear! only very few people in this world deserve to be trusted for SECRETS. I believe keepin' someone's secret safe is a Holy Virtue.
NO ONE _ Hmmm, you can be dangerous. People must stay careful while dealin' with you. LOL! I'm just kiddin' Dear!
God bless all of you.....
Well friend wat i think is that Trust leads to expectations, expectation from that person that in any case he/she gonna take care of our trust that we have on him/her and when from whom we expect anything fails to come up to our expectations it really hurts but still friend thing is that whom we love whether any of our family member, friend or anyone else we cant punish them watever is that we bear the pain they give to us and again we do trust on them.
Personally I always look into first in my part of work and also try to find out and understand the reasons to it, coz sometimes we see wat we want to or wat is been shown to us but in reality its not true so its better to know the reality first that he/she did so coz may b he/she got some valid reasons haan.
Hope u doing fine there.
Takecare
Sweet cousin, lets forgive those who cant see the differ between a Diamond and Stone. You are a Diamond.
SAMRINA _ Thankyou for your comments, you 're right we should try to findout the Truth, that is most important. I agree with you about expectations.
STEPH _ I know that you 're so Brave 'n' you stand strong infront of all those who try to hurt you.
STACY _ You 're right, Sometimes we can't even say somethin' to the people who hurt us coz they 're so dear to us. And sometimes it's difficult to forgive.
HASUNAH _ I know what you man, it's really hard to Trust people.
SHAZIA _ Thankyou for your kind words, thankyou.
God bless all of you....
I would choose D) Something else. I'd forgive, because carrying the anger can make you ill inside...but then I wouldn't want to know that person anymore. I'd be done with them.
Hmmmm....very pertitent to my current situation. In this situation, I will never give them a second chance. I am angry right now and if I see her she might get my two fists of punishment haha, but I'm sure for my own personal peace of mind I eventually will forgive. But NOT FORGET!!! She is written off friends list forever!!!
I’ve actually had this happened to me. I forgive because I am not perfect . I forgive because ultimately it is not up to me to punish. I forgive because karma has a way of biting people on their butts when they do something wrong. Plus my attitude is someone always has to take the higher road, and be the better person.
Oh yeah and I may choose to take the higher ground and forgive but that doesn't mean I'm stupid. Once my trust is betrayed it can never be regained fully again it has to be earned all over again.
and when you have talked yourself blue in the face trying to get the other person to see your point of views and they just over look them because they feel that your views or opinions are not important then what do you do? What do you do when that person dosen't hear a word that you tell them and thinks what they want to think only because there opinions are the only important ones??? What do you do when everytime you talk with that person and you tell that person something then that person is always calling you a liar? even when you know that you have never told that person a lie? what do you do??? What do you do when that person wants to control everything little thing that you do from what you say and how to say and spell it?? what do you do? What do you do when that person treats you like you are an item or property that doesn't have a mind of your own? what do you do? what do you do when that person goes totally nuts on you because you have a job to do and can't get to the phone to answer it and repeatly back to back calls knowing that you could be in a situation that you can't answer the phone and then you tell the person why you couldn't answer the phone and they call you a liar not in so many words but tell you ..you always have some kind of an excuse I don't know what it is but it is always some kind of excuse. what do you do when that person never believes a word that you say so there for that person doesn't even believe in you.. what do you do? When you treat someone like this what do you expect a human being to do? what?? what??
what do you do when you have pushed someone away from you because of your attitude and how you have talked to them. Words may not be physically hitting a person but they do hurt they do make you angry or pissed off or they will make a person back off. so does ones attitude if you take a harsh attitude towards someone that to will make a person back off. so I ask you again Khurram what do you do? yes you have to have trust but when that person makes you upset enough times by there words and there actions. I won't take it. I can't take it. so many times I tried to talk to you til I just gave up and gave in because you had to have it your way. I am sorry if you feel that I have broken your trust. I never tried to or meant to. I needed you to hear me and you wouldn't. and I just don't know what else to do or say. I have to go off for work again in a few hours I don't know when i will be back home again so I don't know when I will be able to check your comments or messenger. but I am agian sorry that you feel that your trust has been broken but put yourself in my shoes and try to see it from my point of view for once just try. Who knows maybe you will see what I have been trying to get through to you.and then again maybe you still won't. all the same I will check when I come home to see if you have commented back to me. take care and God bless you
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